Study log 9244

Below are the questions given by my English lecturer as our blogging title:

What is it that make it so hard to talk to each other? How to break down an emotional war?

Everything living things on this Earth talk and communicate. All of them have their very own language, which does not always is understandable by the other species. For example, scientists have been studying the echoes used by whales to communicate. But, after so many years of studying, what we have achieved is predict the frequency and wave length of their echoes but not fully master their language. While trying to explore other species' language, we, human being seems to have forgotten our own communication problemn - It's getting harder and harder for us to talk and communicate. What had happened to our communication skills?

In most people's perception towars the international language English, which is also know as the 21st lingua franca, they think that it is a universal language. However, they should be aware that there are also numerous barriers to achieve the level of acquaring this 'universal language'. One of the biggest challege is cultural differences. Our Earth community is made up of myriad races, ranging from Chinese, Japanese, Indian, Malay to Eurasian. Among the races, they have their own dialects, and this makes the whole language barrier even more complicate. Due to this complication, it is not be easy for a person to pick up a new language.

Second, the advancement in technology also contributes to the deteriorating communication skills among the young generations. With the presence of all the high technology gadgets, people spend less time together. Although there is a possibility of fostering a realtionship, advancement in communication technology also indirectly errodes the ability of a person to express himself , when he met another person face to face. At the same time, the sign of being autistic can be seen clearly on the young generations. They may be the active and bubbly ones on the MSN, Skype or Yahoo Messenger, but when they start to approach the real world, they often found themselves being caught in the dilema of 'talking'. Cold sweats will start to from in their palms and their mind would be preoccupied in the action of searching conversation topics. If the situation was let to worsen on its own, they will isolate themselves from the others and locked themselves in room. The only thing that will interest them is the one and only 'World of Internet', a place where they 'talk' in the digital way.

Instead of focusing on a specific generation, I would like to enlarge my next point in a more general view - gender. As the saying goes, 'Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus', people always discriminate the opposite sex if they were given the choice whether they want to talk to the same sex or opposite ones. People from the opposite sex would normally think it will be hard to talk to each other. The only things that are universal in their mind is - further conversations will only bring embarrassment and clashes in opinions. All these will bring nothing but act as the catalyst in broadenning the gap between both sex.

In addition, age does play an important role in deciding whether a conversation will work out or not, when both the person comunicating share the same characteristics. Age can create a sense of acceptance and at the same time, it can provoke a feel of disgusment. When people from different age stages converse, they may face the problemn of fully understand the topic throwned out by the opposite side. For example, if a teenagers who are having a hormone surge was asked to talk with an old hag, it will either end with one side dozing off or another suffering a high blood pressure. In the movie, Mr. Shi also find it hard to communicate to his daughter, Yilan due to the gap in their age.

Inspite all these barriers which will cause a further deterioration in human communication skills and ended up in an emotional war, what we can do is have a heart of thousand wills. We must never afraid of rejection. Although it is sure for it to be hard when you try to solve it, the results will prove that it is worth it if consistancy was shown. Besides, time is always the best resolution for an emotional war. While settling apart, it gives each other sufficient time to reconsider about the relationship. Subsequently, both sides will discover the root of the problem, if they were willing to try and tolerate. It is important to believe that everything can be solved, and listen to the others while lending your ears at the same time.